Hey there and welcome to this week’s “Dear Abby”! For this issue, I have selected two questions from some of the many entries received. Let’s start with the first question. 

“How can I get good grades?”

This is a question that many students ask themselves and also a goal we all strive for. However for some people, getting good grades is much easier said than done. But don’t worry! It is still possible to succeed in your classes if you are willing to take the steps to get there.

The first thing I would recommend is to stay positive. It’s understandable to feel upset or frustrated when you don’t get the marks you had hoped for, but negativity doesn’t make the situation any better. In fact, it will probably bring you down. Instead, try to motivate yourself with simple phrases like “I can do it,” or “I’ll do better on the next test.”

This may come off as obvious, but you have to study if you wat to do better. If you aren’t a fan of studying, then write your notes and work so that they suit you. Don’t be afraid to slip some jokes into the mix if it helps you remember details better. You just need to make sure you are consistent. Even a mere thirty minutes a day will help you a ton. 

One of the biggest steps in my opinion is to stay organized. Things like planners, folders, and binders makes your life ten times easier by ensuring that everything is effortlessly accessible. Using a planner also helps to remind you when assignments are due or what tests are coming up, so you know to prepare. You can even put these events in your phone if you are on it a lot.

Moving on to the next question, we have…

“How do I get women?”

Wow, such a bold question. I would strongly suggest being yourself. There is nothing more attractive than someone who is genuine and real. Also, don’t tell her that she has daddy issues because that’s the worst thing you could tell a girl and it’s the worst way to make a move. 

Give her little compliments throughout the day. That small gesture alone shows that you pay attention to details and will show her that you care for her.  It makes people feel nice when you take notice of the little things because to them, that could be a really big thing. 

Another way to show her that you care for her is to consider her feelings. If she isn’t feeling the best, then don’t ignore it or push it to the side. Ask her how she is feeling. If she tells you that she’s “fine,” then she isn’t fine. In the case that she does open up, then console her and assure her that everything will be fine. Maybe even give her advice. Just make sure the advice isn’t dumb or a joke. 

Lastly, if you are not already friends with her, do not approach her in an attempt to start as friends. Why? Well, in the instance that you do try and become her friend, then when you decide to ask her on a date or confess your feelings, there is the chance that she may only see you as a friend. From there, it will only get awkward. Instead, just approach her every so often to compliment her or ask her how she is doing. By then she will be familiar and comfortable with you.